Revelation 3:20 – Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
John 14:6 – Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
How IS your relationship with God?
I think most of us would say “Good”, or even “Great”, but if we compared notes on the details, we may be very shocked at the range of devotion that we all hold.
We all want amazing things from God, but when we hear the importance of a ‘relationship’, our human minds have very different ideas of what that really entails.
I best think of this by comparing to my participation in Human relationships. The best example is a spouse, but if you’ve never been married or in a marriage like relationship, consider your best friend.
In the beginning of human relationships, like first dates etc, we begin to learn the very basics about the person. We likely will ask what their interests are, what they like to do, what they do for a living etc. As we spend more time together, we begin to learn a bit more, such as the foods they like or the movies they like. And yet, as we spend more time we start to learn their birthdays, favorite colors, family, childhood stories etc.
Now fast forward that relationship to Months or Years down the road. At this point you know SOO much about them. You likely make an effort to recognize their birthday or other relevant holidays. You know that perfect gift to give them that will light up their eyes. They are there to listen to you at 2am in the morning when something is wrong, and likewise you are there for them in turn. Likely you’ve shown up in person to lay a comforting hand when tragedy strikes their world, and likely they have been there for you too. You can’t imagine life without them, the very thought brings a sour feeling to your stomach and a tear to your eye. Very likely at this point your companion knows you better than yourself, and very likely you know them better too. This relationship is stronger than any bond because it is a reciprocated effort. To truly have this Healthy type of relationship with another human, you have to put in as much as you get in return.
Now take that comparison and apply it to your relationship with God. How does it measure up?
- Do you take the initiative to wish Jesus a happy birthday?
- Do you take the initiative to thank Jesus for what he did on the cross?
- Do you talk to God as you would a good friend/spouse about the issues in your life?
- Do you talk to God as you would a good friend/spouse about the GOOD things in your life?
- Do you THANK him for gifts as you would a good friend/spouse?
- Do you invite him for a ‘drive’ with you just to chat and catch up?
- Do YOU listen when God needs to talk?
- Are YOU the friend that God can lean on when he needs a listening ear?
- Do you make time in your schedule for God as you would a friend/spouse?
- Do you lay a comforting hand on God when he experiences tragedy?
- Do you have compassion for God as you would a good friend/spouse?
- As a measure, how much reciprocation comes from you in your relationship with God?
I can tell you, when writing it out like that, I myself am lacking 7 of those categories and very likely deficient in the rest. I myself have been a selfish receiver in my relationship… but plan to change that. In human relationships we often seek counseling to better our relationships. We can do the same for our relationship with God. Finding a good church is a start. I am blessed to be at the place God lead me. I have learned and grown so much. Church has also taught me to keep God in my schedule where I have a support group of brothers and sisters that help keep me on my path.
You can also find counseling in the word. Yes that’s the Bible, but if you are intimidated by reading this yourself, pick up devotionals (or google them online). There are some great texts out there that break it down and help you understand the scripture. Devotionals range in size & depth, so if you’re a busy on-the-goer, you can find a short daily devotional that only takes a few minutes. If you want to dive in deeper, there are some very thorough options as well. Recommendation, sign up for an automated daily scripture that gets sent to your phone. This makes it super easy to keep God in your schedule, as well as remind you in the middle of a busy day to stop for a minute and think of him.
Here are some recommendations by Me, but there are millions of great options out there:
- This book was remarkable for me in learning about Jesus. We didn’t walk beside him on this earth, but the author has written this in a way that we can actually ‘feel’ the feelings that we would have had. Each Devotion takes between 10-15 minutes. Perfect for your morning Coffee.
- Our Daily Bread, you may recognize this name from devotional books handed out at your local church. This is a free website that you can use to get or push devotionals to you.